First of all, it should be noted that one man in 3 ejaculates quicker than he wants to, and that the vast majority of men sometimes ejaculate too quickly. So if this happens to you, you’re hardly alone.
The following are some tips and exercises that will assist you in learning to control this problem:
You can learn to tolerate long periods of sexual pleasure without ejaculating once you learn to recognize the feelings that precede your orgasm.
There is an exercise you can try called The “One to Ten” Approach. Imagine that the scale of pleasure runs from 1 to 10: 1 you are just starting to feel aroused; 10 you have an orgasm and ejaculate.
Therefore 9, the point just before your orgasm, is your point of no return. Try masturbating. When you reach your magic point 8, stop and let the urge to ejaculate subside.
Then start masturbating again. Do this a few times. Masturbate, stop, masturbate. At the end of 15 minutes you can ejaculate (if you wish). Repeat this technique until you are able to enjoy your arousal without ejaculating for 15 minutes.
Another method that reduces the chance of premature ejaculation is one that we mention in your workout- Give Your PC Muscles a Squeeze. Review our discussion of Kegel (PC) Muscles if you’ve forgotten where these muscles are located.
Strong PC muscles operate like a good set of brakes in your car- by contracting the muscles, you can control your arousal the same way you use your brakes to control speed.
In the broadest terms of how to apply this muscle when making love, you prolong orgasms by a simulation of “stopping your urination in midstream”. Learn the powers of these muscles and how to use them. They will work wonders in the bedroom!
Finally, the oldest, simplest & best method for learning ejaculatory control is called the Locking Method.
When having sex, if you feel yourself becoming too excited… simply withdraw your penis from the vagina and pull back so that only the head of your penis remains inside her.
Then just remain motionless for 15 – 30 seconds. Wait for the urge to subside, then back to where you left off.